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I don't know what they key is. I know my mother didn't do anything wrong, but even so she was taken for granted. Her attempts to please my father often ended in arguments because he didn't notice. Therapy wasn't even an option on the table. In her second marriage, she's perfectly happy to tell her husband to bugger off when that happens. It took time, though. My dad died, by they way. Didn't end in divorce, although it would have been better for all of us if it had.

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Is anyone her on Twitter? I'll be live tweeting tonight and Satisfaction is all up and ready to participate with us. Should we blow them away? I also noted that I would let you know about The Affair. I saw the premiere episode and it's a much different experience than this but will absolutely without a doubt drive discussion. I don't want to give too much away, but the storytelling is unique. I'm also reviewing Homeland, if you all watch. I'm trying to walk away from The Good Wife. I don't see it like others do and I get beat up a lot. ;-)

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Congratulations to you for giving the women in your life the ability to stand on their own and not question their confidence. Allow me to assure you that is not the norm. My mom and dad were better friends than lovers. They kissed on the cheek and did perfunctory pecks on the lips. My sister and I grew up unsure of what it meant to be in love. My mother wasn't strictly forbidden from working, but it was made clear to her that she was best utilized at home, watching the kids and taking care of the house. Ironically, my grandfather worshiped my grandmother, but she rebuffed him more often than not. So, my father's in ability to show emotion was very confusing for my mother. She finally got a job in her 50s when my dad had cancer and he was too preoccupied to care. I was a beautiful girl. But you know one of the comments that sticks out to me more than any other? My father, after I had been ill for several days comment to me after I came down to dinner wearing makeup. "Finally! I have my daughter back." Now I don't fault him for how he was because he was raised in an odd home. But women and men perceive things differently. They just do. You're a doctor. I understand you're confused because Grace is feeling things you can't comprehend. We have not seen their entire marriage. Who Neil is today is not who he was before. We don't know if he was always working too hard and allowed his wife to feel neglected. We were not there. Me? I haven't been in a relationship for almost two years. I don't need one and being strong I tend to find men who try to take advantage of me. I was assaulted by one loser. Yes, he went to prison. But being strong can also be detrimental to women. Some men don't like it and you often don't know that until it's too late. If all men and women were created equal, that would be astounding. But we weren't and we aren't. We all process things differently. We all react differently. We can only use our own compassion to try to see things others are experiencing, even if they're only on TV.

Modwild

Mmmmm. Salmon! Do you catch and cook it right on the river? Eat it raw? ;-) I love salmon and now I know my competition. I have to work extra hard tomorrow night. ;-)

Modwild

Be nice, Miss Mystic falls. Should be Falls. We all make mistakes. :-)

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I don't think the shows represent guilt, but rather this different side of herself. She thinks if she stops seeing Simon and wipes the mud off of the shoes, everything will go back to how it was. She's not reveling in the affair but perhaps who she became as a result. Or something. LOL

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You're kidding right?

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I did see the clip. That she went to therapy before learning that Neil knows is a good sign. It also helps fill in the gaps of where she has been when people have assumed she must be off with Simon. I think what you said below nailed it. Her self esteem has suffered greatly over the years. I think men naturally assume that a beautiful woman understands she is such, but if Neil put work first (in her eyes) then it makes sense. One of the major issues between men and women is that men think doing odd things like putting air into his wife's car tires shows that he loves her. To her she sees him avoiding spending time with her and fiddling with the car. Communication between the sexes is extraordinarily tricky.

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My response is: there are 18 years worth of their lives we know very little about. We don't know that Neil was always supportive of her having a career. Perhaps his idea of a mother was one who raised their child from home. There is far too much we don't know to assume anything about Grace's actions throughout the years (not working, etc.).

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