The Vampire Diaries Review: The Five Stages of Grief

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Wow, I need a minute. It's amazing how an episode can be so dull for the first half... and by the end you are totally speechless. "Stand By Me" was definitely one of those episodes. Before we dive into our review, I want everyone to take a moment and say goodbye to Casa Gilbert. 

As for Jeremy...well, that's gonna take a little more time.

A Plotting Foursome

Thirty minutes into this installment and I was thinking "ugh another filler?!" Bonnie was acting stoned and brainwashed, Professor Crazy was spouting his psychobabble, and Rebekah was threatening lives. Blah blah blah. Actually I'm only semi-kidding about that last one because does anyone threaten torture better than Damon and Rebekah? I thoroughly enjoyed that bit. I think they do a better job than Klaus at this point!

Then we had the turning point: annoying April calls and for lack of a good excuse or lie, Elena finally admitted Jeremy was in fact DEAD. Boom. Okay so now let's hit the five stages of grief:

Denial: Obviously this was the first 30-40 minutes of the episode. Everyone else could smell Jeremy's body starting to decompose. Caroline was scrubbing the floor from where Kol got torched to keep her mind from Tyler's absence. Jeremy just could not be dead, right? Wrong, he's a supernatural so the Gilbert ring couldn't work on him anymore. 

Anger: Enter Dr. Fell, who calmly tries to tell Elena to hand Jeremy's body over to the morgue and set up a private viewing for friends and family to say goodbye. I thought Elena was going to bite her head off. At this point, the only person who could maybe reason with her was Damon. We needed that sire bond and we needed it fast. Since Elena still thought Jeremy can be brought back, she was begging for Bonnie. Damon finds Bonnie who looks brainwashed out of her mind, because duh she is.

Bargaining: Bonnie and Damon return to Mystic Falls and Bonnie introduces her psychotic plan to break down the veil between the mortal world and the other side. Only 12 more people need to be sacrificed, no biggie right? Elena was almost considering this as Caroline, Bonnie and Matt argued. She had hope after her touching scene with Matt in the stoner pit. But does she really believe that Bonnie and the sacrifice can bring him back? Then the aforementioned call from April and Elena snapped. Jeremy is really dead. There was no more bargaining.

Depression (and a buttload of anger): Honestly, Elena's meltdown was almost four seasons in the making and it was epic. I truly think that scene in the living room with the lighter fluid and the throwing of objects was Nina Dobrev's best work on The Vampire Diaries to date. Just think of the amount of loved ones she has lost and tell me how that girl is still standing. I know everyone makes fun of her that she can be whiney and she's always the victim, but in all seriousness she has lost a lot. 

Every inch of this house is filled with memories of the people that I loved that have died. My mom, my dad, Jeremy, and Jenna, Alaric, John, even John. They're all dead. Everyone is dead. | permalink

Acceptance: I don't know that I would call this stage acceptance so much as sire bond compulsion, but they served the same purpose. Elena is numb. Her humanity is gone. She knows Jeremy is no longer coming back. The Gilbert house isn't a place she can stay anymore. It's over and it's all gone up in flames, literally.

A couple of notes before we turn it over to you readers. So... is Shane dead? Was Bonnie communicating with his ghost? Where is Silas? Was that Silas?!? Most of all, are the writers really telling us that our favorite little Plot Device Katherine Pierce has been running this show from the get-go? Working with Hayley and the Professor before he even got to Mystic Falls? Well I'll be damned.

One last thing: if Bonnie can raise the dead and Cult doesn't do well, can we have Alaric back? Sorry, had to ask.

Time to share your thoughts. Hit the comments!


Editor Rating: 4.0 / 5.0
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David and sabrina 2014

Seems like a bunch of things happening around the episodes lead to surprising twists and turns that cause people to tare apart even though they can still stand. I may feel sorry for Elena being the only Gilbert left but as long as she stays in the sire bond,the show is never going to feel normal especially with the other random couple shenanigans. ;P =|


anyone else think that this Silas taking on other peoples forms is a tad Buffy the Vampire Slayer with The First?


@B I don't believe Katherine turn off her humanity because she was capable of loving Stefan she was just a selfish bitch would always put herself above anybody else. Elena's turning her humanity would probably be worse but the Salvatore brothers and Caroline will surely keep an eye on her and Elena will probably make her way back and turn it on eventually.


This was a very sad and shocking episode. I cannot believe Jeremy is dead and Elena has turned her humanity off. Now there are no more humans left in the show and not sure how the show can go on and how interesting it will be. The sire bond needs to break soon and Elena needs to get back with Stefan, as that was the core of the show and made it so great. Now Elena is going to be like Katherine, so what is the point of that???


Even the vampire's diary burned up. This ep is a game changer. Great performance from Nina D. It's getting good again.

Allison berry barbieri

NOW...for the things that confused me:
1. How has Katherine been lurking around without raising Klaus's hybrid radar? And did she know about Silas or the cure prior to coming across Haley in New Orleans? 2. Is Shane dead? Did Silas take on his form? It clearly not just a body take-over a la Klaus and Tyler/Alaric, because we saw Shane in the woods. I am not sure about the direction of this plot... 3. This whole veil seems like new information, as before it was just that Silas would raise the dead that aided him. And wasn't the point raising Shane's son, who is not supernatural? Unless, Shane had one plan and Silas has had another all along. That being bringing back all supernaturals.

Allison berry barbieri

I do hope Jeremy stays dead. Not because I don't love Jeremy (I do), and not because I don't love Steven R. McQueen (Oh man, I do)'s just that reviving him would lower the stakes of death on TVD (which are already pretty low) to basically nothing. Sometimes dead has to be DEAD. And I totally called the Jeremy dead equals humanity-less Elena...I just didn't think Damon would be the one to turn it off on her.

Allison berry barbieri

Good episode! Not my favorite (those would be the penultimate and finale of 2, and the finale of 3), but solid and good writing by Julie Plec. Nina Dobrev did an excellent job, so props to her, and Zach Roerig was pretty great too...Matt breaking down in the truck was so sad!


I've cried my eyes out during the whole episode... It breaks my heart to see Stefan suffering... Damon is not right for Elena. I cried like hell at the burning Gilbert house scene...the only one of them that was turning back to look at the house was Stefan..he looked so sad i couldn't take it. I hope that Stelena will find a way to get back together again.


Disappointing. After being in the background for years Jeremy was just starting to come to the fore and get a bit of plot they go and kill the lad off. Very, very disappointing. What was the point of all the 'superhunter' stuff with the tattoos etc if they were just going to finish it like this? I suspect there has been a change in the thinking behind this show - either a spin off has been agreed and the best writers have gone off to concentrate on that, or they've decided to take the show in a very different direction. It's been a good run TVD but I think I'll head off now. Elena is boring. Klaus is boring. It's all too cliched for words. Bye.

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